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Update : {9 & 10 Months}

This summer has proved to be a busy one baby girl, filled with lots of firsts. And in all that time this post just sat here. Your list of firsts were completed months ago, so I wouldn’t forget anything. Yet this post sat here as we continued on with parties and milestones. Relishing all that life with you, as a family of four has to offer. So without further introduction, here is a look at your 9 & 10 Month milestones.

Photo Cards: Milestone Baby Cards

Monthly Stickers: AppleEyeBabyShop

{Update 9 Months}

  • April 10 – You pulled yourself up to a sit-up position by pulling up on the activity seat.
  • April 13 – You did it! Your FIRST word was MAMA! Yay! I was holding you in my lap and you said it loud and clear!
  • April 15 – Your first snack of Gerber Apple Puffs were a hit!
  • April 20 – Watermelon was a deviously new discovery.
  • April 21 – Pineapple was a funny/sour faced introduction, but that didn’t stop you from chowing down!
  • April 24 – Today was met with several firsts. Eggs and peanut butter were two new delicious  foods added to your platte. It was also your first time in the baby Einstein Jumper. You think it’s ok, but you prefer your freedom. It was a nice sunny day, which also required your first use of both sun screen and sun hat.
  • April 26 – Cucumbers were NOT a welcomed new taste.
  • April 28 – Beef Stroganoff was a delicious new dinner option. You could not get enough!
  • April 29 – You have officially joined our Saturday pancake breakfast! It warms my heart to have us all together for Saturday morning breakfast!
  • April 30 – Who loves Chicken!? This bundle of cuteness!
  • May 1 – I woke up to this little girls voice coming over the monitor saying Mama, while in her crib. Be still my heart! <3
  • May 5 – Italian Beef is a true menu winner!
  • May 6 – Your SECOND word was Dada! Daddy is definitely thrilled, but you prefer to say Mama!

{Update 10 Months}

  • May 7 – Blueberries and homemade fries are a delicious new treat!
  • May 26 – You clapped your hands together for the first time as I was loading you up into the car this morning.
  • May 31 – You went to bed at the same time as big sister. I simply gave you a bottle, burped you, and laid you in the crib. You went right to sleep!
  • June 5 – You pulled yourself up to a standing position for the first time! You pulled yourself up on the bath tub while big sister was talking a bath.
  • June 6 – You little copycat! When we sneeze you mimic us, its beyond cute!

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

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The Joys Of A Simple Weekend

Have you ever had one of those really good weekends? I mean really good – full of simple beauty? Well, that was my weekend. It was amazing from start to finish. There was no grant plan. We just made things up as we went along and let the day fold itself into one beautiful memory.

Our weekend morning began as they always do, with chocolate chip pancakes glory. I can hear the all of the kitchen commotion from my bedroom. Cabinets opening and closing, the clanging of pots and pans, and the oldest asking for more chocolate chip as my husband indulges her. The giggles and screeches, as the girls play together while the pancakes are cooking on the griddle.

Our breakfast conversation consisting of giggles and imaginary ideas. My husband chiming in, suggesting we spend the early afternoon at our local grocery store where they were having some outdoor activities for children.

The weather was beautiful. It was a breezy day, full of shine sun. My husband and I took turns holding the baby as our preschooler ran between bounce houses and playing games filled with sugary prizes. It was so lovely just being in the moment, that we stayed much longer than intended.

As the day moved slowly and quietly forward, my husband suggested an evening movie in the next town over. We were in luck. The theater was playing Captain Underpants. My daughter giggled at the title, so I knew it would be a success. Who doesn’t love an early evening filled with popcorn and laughter!?

Have you ever seen the t.v. show Gilmore Girls? Well this theater definitely has a small town, Stars Hollow vibes with it’s cute, eclectically decorated foyer. It’s something to marvel at. A true diamond in the rough.

The movie was followed by dinner at home and a much anticipated walk to the park. I swear my daughter would live at the park if she could. As for me, I enjoy the walk more than the destination. Funny isn’t it!? Especially since I have been trying to focus on enjoying the journey when it comes to my own creative path.

Walks are different. They are my time to just be and enjoy the world around me. We often take the scenic route to the park because I cannot get enough of these glorious summer days… My preschooler has learned to adapt, understanding she will have to wait the extra 10 minutes before the swing set is within reach.

Our little family finally reaching the park. It was a cool summer night and we had the park all to ourselves. As day turned to night, we found ourselves catching fireflies among the crisp, cool air. As we walked home, the anticipation of s’mores and bedtime stories lingered in the air.

Our Sunday seemed to be a sweet repeat of the day before, with a few variations. After breakfast, I got ready and left to help set up a children’s carnival. My husband held down the fort at home – feeding the girls lunch and getting them ready to meet me for some fun. Once again, my girl ran between bounce houses as I talked with some other sweet mamas.

“And though she be but little, she is fierce.” -Shakespeare

It was a fun filled afternoon, but my favorite part – our walk to the park. As we made our way towards the equipment, my daughter shouted with excitement, “kids!” Mostly elementary boys, donned in their stained up baseball uniforms. It didn’t seem to intimidate my girl! I quickly realized I could learn a thing or two from this fearless little girl, who didn’t seem to notice that she stuck out like a sore thumb in her pink, ruffle dress. She ran around, like she owned the place. Not bothered in the least by all the commotion.

Sometimes we really can learn so much from our children and their willingness to forge ahead. My girl never seemed to waver in her confidence to ran about the park as if no one was there.

It’s the joys of a simple weekend, that are blessed with the most beauty and grace. I feel like the Lord always knows when they are most needed and he places them in our path. This weekend is one beautiful memory, starting with chocolate chip pancakes and finishing with fairy tale endings.

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

 

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When Everybody’s Watching: Handling a Toddler Meltdown in Public

As moms, we are all just doing our best to raise happy, competent children. Some days are filled with immense joy and others are inundated with speed bumps. Sometimes those speed bumps come in the form of toddler meltdowns. It’s something that plagues every parent. This phase is anything but easy. That’s why I am pleased to have Jenny from MomLovesBest, on the blog today. She is sharing her tips for how to handle those toddler meltdowns in public, while keeping your cool.

When Everybody’s Watching: Handling a Toddler Meltdown in Public

It’s happened to the best of us: our toddler loses it right in the middle of the grocery store. Or public park. Or any other place where the eyes of strangers are on you. But when it happens, you can’t lose it yourself.

I know it’s easier said than done, but you must keep your cool – even when everyone’s watching. Though it may feel like you’re being judged by the slew of onlookers, it’s important to focus on the task at hand. And you may be surprised to learn that task is NOT to get the tantrum to stop at all costs.

It’s to parent well in the midst of the meltdown.

So take a deep breath and get ready to tackle your mission. How you handle this situation will have much more far-reaching repercussions than whatever insignificant opinions strangers may have of you.

Here’s how to parent well in the midst of a public toddler meltdown.

1. Be empathetic.

Let’s be honest – it’s hard being a toddler. With little control, wild emotions, and few words with which to express them, situations can become overwhelming quickly. The truth is that toddlers don’t yet have the capacity to truly manipulate you and while tantrums may be a genuine expression of displeasure, it doesn’t mean they’re doing it on purpose just to give you a hard time. Most likely it means they’ve got some powerful feelings and they don’t know how to manage them.

Evaluate the situation and see if you can identify the reason for the tantrum. Are they overdue for a nap? Hungry? Antsy after a morning of running errands and need some exercise? Need a diaper change? Just plain mad that they aren’t getting their way? After you have identified a reason, it’s easier to respond appropriately.

2. Speak calmly.

Get down on your child’s level so you appear as non-threatening as possible. Speak calmly; a child overwhelmed with their own emotions will also be overwhelmed by yours. Look them in the eye and validate the reason for their tantrum.

“I know you’re very angry that you can’t have a snack right now. We need to finish shopping, and then we will get you a snack in the car. The faster you can calm down, the faster we can finish. Can I rub your back to help you feel better?”

Sometimes, just feeling like they’re heard is enough to stop a child’s tantrum.

3. Be consistent.

If the tantrum continues, handle it in public the same way you would at home. This teaches your child as they grow that causing a scene does NOT let them get their way. Because even though they’re not manipulating you now, you’re laying the groundwork for the future. Moreover, being consistent (regardless of the locale) provides a level of security and predictability for your child. They need to know that you are the same parent in every situation, whether at home or out and about.

4. Don’t make promises (or threats) you won’t keep.

I know. You just want it to STOP, especially in public. But that can cause you to make wild promises (or terrible threats) to coax your child into submission. Taking grand steps to get the tantrum to end may solve the immediate problem, but it can begin to develop a host of new, larger issues in the future.

It can teach your child that your words are meaningless, or that your follow-through is poor. Children may begin to believe that humiliating their parents in public will help them get their way. As children grow, the stakes become higher. The foundation is laid early on.

5. Don’t give in.

Sometimes it takes awhile for the situation to resolve. Once you’ve begun the battle of wills, you can’t back off. You’ll need to put on your patience and see it through to the end. Stay calm, stay firm, and – above all – stay empathetic. If your child continues to cause a scene and you’re concerned about the comfort of others around you, simply pick them up and remove them from the area. Continue the conversation outside or away from eavesdropping ears – but make sure you do see it through to the end. Don’t give in.

6. Make reasonable adjustments.

Let’s be honest – sometimes the tantrum is our fault. We neglected to meet a need our child had, pushed them too hard, or crossed our fingers as we blew right through the warning signs that a meltdown was imminent. If that’s the case, make the adjustments your child needs – even if that means creating an inconvenience for you. Take a time out to nurse your child or get them a snack. Sit on the floor and snuggle them for a few minutes. Leave your cart and head home for a nap.

Remember, while public tantrums are one of the hardest things to deal with as a parent, you are still the adult in the situation. Don’t worry about what others think of you; instead, worry about what’s best for your child. And what’s best for your child is to know that you are there to be loving, consistent, and help them learn to regulate their emotions effectively. Using these techniques will help to effectively diffuse the situation and allow you to parent your child well through an event that is just as stressful for your child as it is for you.

Jenny is just another Mom trying to do her Best. She loves organizing things into lists and helping others find what they are looking for. When she’s not using her powers to find her kids missing socks, you can find her giving parenting advice & tips at MomLovesBest.com or on Pinterest.

Update : {7 & 8 Months}

Oh sweet baby #2, here we are again. Doubling up on your monthly updates. Remember my darling, I love you more than you could possibly know. And I love making memories with you. Sometimes I get so caught up in the present moment, that I forget to jot everything down. But truthfully, it doesn’t bother me. I would much rather spend my time bonding with you and your sister, than doing anything else! So here it is baby girl, your highlight reel of months 7 & 8!

<3 Mama

Photo Cards – Milestone Baby Cards

Monthly Stickers – AppleEyeBabyShop

{Update 7 Months}

  • February 9th you had your first solid food – avocados. You didn’t seem thrilled, but food itself was a new concept to you. It took an additional two weeks to get the “eating concept” down.
  • February 10th the 3 of us went for a walk in the late afternoon. You and big sister enjoyed the stroller ride!
  • February 11 was your first library movie night! Once we arrived you had a bottle, then slept through a majority of trolls.
  • February 14th was not only your first Valentine’s Day, but also your six month check up. (Although you turned 7 months, these reviews are technically from the month prior.)
  • February 15th you slept hardcore on the living room floor. Falling asleep for nap in the afternoon and again in the evening close to bed time. Later in the evening, I held you for a while as you slept! Your rolls are adorable! <3
  • February 17th was one of your first six week baby story time sessions. At the end of the six weeks your were gifted two books “Yummy, Yucky” and
  • February 20th was your first time using the Boon Pulp to eat Bananas! Your expression said it all! <3
  • February 26th you started to army crawl! It’s your current mode of transportation and boy are you fast!
  • February 26th you tried carrots for the first time. You seem to really like them. Although you did finally warm up to avocados as well. Partly because you have the whole eating thing down now.

{Update 8 Months}

  • March 10th you and I hung out all night! After you threw up your bottle all over your sleep sack and me, you were bright eyed and bushed tailed until 3:30am. I loved the way your big eyes started happily up at me, as we caught up on the Ellen Show. It was a party of epic proportions!
  • March 12th was your first time having oranges. Holy Cow! You went to town on the Boon Pulp!
  • March 16th you hung out in your crib while I cleaned. Big sister kept you entertained, as she often does. 🙂
  • March 17th Boon Pulp and green grapes. You were in love! <3
  • March 18th you didn’t want to nap. So you got some one on one time with Mom and Dad!
  • March 20th was the start of napping in your crib on a daily basis and at the same time as your big sister.
  • March 24th was a blow out of epic proportions, which resulted in an immediate bath.
  • April 6th was your first “BABABABA” babble. I am desperately trying to turn that B to an M, while dad is pushing hard for D. Who will win the battle of the first word?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

In Twenty Minutes Everything Will Be Ok

A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend about our morning routine. Well… I wouldn’t call it a morning routine, so much as a chaotic mess. Anyway, I was discussing with her one specific morning where both my children were visibly unhappy with everything. I couldn’t do anything right and I am surprised we even made it out the door at all.

Shortly after I finished my overly dramatic story, another mother chimed in with her own chaotic tale. Because of course, what is motherhood without at least a few of those. Her story began where all great motherhood stories do, with poop! The short version of events goes something like this.

“Child A poops in the tub. Child B sees said poop and proceeds to throw up on the floor. All while Child C is crying somewhere in the background.”

In that moment, she calls a fellow mommy friend who gave her some of the best advice.

Step back,

                     take a breath,

                     in twenty minutes everything will be OK.

And it was.

In twenty minutes, she had cleaned up both the poop and the puke. The baby was no longer crying. Everything was OK. In a child’s mind the gears shift rapidly. What rocks their world one minute is no longer important the next.

Yet, as adults, sometimes those moments tend to linger throughout our day. Well, for me anyway. Sometimes shaking off the craziness of the morning rush isn’t so easy. I ponder about the recent events, wondering how I could have done it differently. Maybe if I hadn’t raised my voice? Gotten my toddler up sooner? Allowed her to have that peanut butter sandwich she requested for breakfast? Just left the baby in her sleeper without feeling the need to dress her?

The list go on and on…

Most of the time, I am probably too hard on myself. I mean, aren’t we all at one time or another? Motherhood is that crazy, beautiful mix of fun and messy. But sometimes its those messy parts that trip us up a bit. When our children have moved on to the lighthearted fun, we are still stuck in the mess, wondering “how to do it better.” 

Parenting is hard, y’all! But that’s just it. Sometimes we get so caught up in the messy, that we miss all the beautiful fun. I don’ know about you, but I hate to miss those moments! So the next next we have a messy moment, I am going to-

Step Back, Take a Breath, because in Twenty Minutes Everything Will Be OK!

Tell me about your recent messy parenting moment? Were you able to move on quickly or did you spend time pondering the recent events of the day?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You