Category Archives: Motherhood

In Twenty Minutes Everything Will Be Ok

A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend about our morning routine. Well… I wouldn’t call it a morning routine, so much as a chaotic mess. Anyway, I was discussing with her one specific morning where both my children were visibly unhappy with everything. I couldn’t do anything right and I am surprised we even made it out the door at all.

Shortly after I finished my overly dramatic story, another mother chimed in with her own chaotic tale. Because of course, what is motherhood without at least a few of those. Her story began where all great motherhood stories do, with poop! The short version of events goes something like this.

“Child A poops in the tub. Child B sees said poop and proceeds to throw up on the floor. All while Child C is crying somewhere in the background.”

In that moment, she calls a fellow mommy friend who gave her some of the best advice.

Step back,

                     take a breath,

                     in twenty minutes everything will be OK.

And it was.

In twenty minutes, she had cleaned up both the poop and the puke. The baby was no longer crying. Everything was OK. In a child’s mind the gears shift rapidly. What rocks their world one minute is no longer important the next.

Yet, as adults, sometimes those moments tend to linger throughout our day. Well, for me anyway. Sometimes shaking off the craziness of the morning rush isn’t so easy. I ponder about the recent events, wondering how I could have done it differently. Maybe if I hadn’t raised my voice? Gotten my toddler up sooner? Allowed her to have that peanut butter sandwich she requested for breakfast? Just left the baby in her sleeper without feeling the need to dress her?

The list go on and on…

Most of the time, I am probably too hard on myself. I mean, aren’t we all at one time or another? Motherhood is that crazy, beautiful mix of fun and messy. But sometimes its those messy parts that trip us up a bit. When our children have moved on to the lighthearted fun, we are still stuck in the mess, wondering “how to do it better.” 

Parenting is hard, y’all! But that’s just it. Sometimes we get so caught up in the messy, that we miss all the beautiful fun. I don’ know about you, but I hate to miss those moments! So the next next we have a messy moment, I am going to-

Step Back, Take a Breath, because in Twenty Minutes Everything Will Be OK!

Tell me about your recent messy parenting moment? Were you able to move on quickly or did you spend time pondering the recent events of the day?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

One, Two, Three : Don’t Blink

One, Two, Three…

There it is and just like that it’s gone. I feel like that is just how much time has past, but not in years. In seconds… Time is the tabistry of life. A fabric I am deperserately trying to cling to with every fiber of my being.

One, Two, Three…

That is how many seconds it took for you to go from baby to toddler. And within a matter of a few short months you will be leaving three behind forever. The visual in my mind is difficult to shake… I picture you waving good-bye to three and as you head down a dust road to greet number four. Leaving three to fade into the background, becoming a distant memory.

One, Two, Three…

While I feel as though there is something magical about each stage of life, I feel like 3 has been my favorite thus far. Or maybe 3 1/2. Either way, I love this number! A number that represents so much growth and development.

I love all the cute things you say!

  • “I will go wiff (with) you!”
  • “Yes, Imam.” (I am)
  • “I NOT!” (You sound as though you have adopted a sophisticated European accent when you say this. It’s too cute!)
  • “I’m free” (I’m three)
  • “I wuv you!” (I love you!)
  • “Not for now.” (When you don’t want to do something.)
  • “You tell me! You tell me now!” (When you ask a question I do not know the answer to. Ex. What is her name? As we pass a random little girl in the grocery store.)
  • “I have to stir my witches potion, mommy!” (As you stand on the step stool at the counter, donned with your superhero mask and cape, while stirring the eggs.)
  • “Minnie and Mickey live in Forda and Calfona!” (Florida and California are two of the first four states you learned.)
  • “I do it myself!”
  • “Oooo, that’s spooky!”
  • “Cuddle you Mommy.”
  • “What it taste of?” (What does it taste like?)
  • “Mmmmmm, that’s tasty.”
  • “That’s yummy for my tummy.”
  • *Dramatic Sigh* “I’m tired. I need to rest.”

I love the sweet songs you sing!

  • “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.” You started singing to your baby sister when she was in my tummy.
  • “Go, Cubs, Go.” Daddy taught you this song over the summer. One day at preschool you began singing it to your teachers.

A few books you love! When you love a book you stick with it for weeks and even months on end.

  • For months following your third birthday, Snow White and the Seven Dwarves was a must read.
  • The Day The Crayons Quit
  • What Makes a Rainbow
  • Scaredy-Cat Splat – Halloween books are your all time favorite!
  • The Little Old Lady Who Was Not Afraid Of Anything
  • Dr. Seuss ABC Book – Just within the last few weeks, you have memorized a majority of the content in the book. It’s amazing to listen to you!

Goodbye Three…

Honestly, I could spend days adding to this post. Writing down every tidbit that makes you, my adorable girl, one amazing three year old! We have had a great year, haven’t we!? You have become quite the inquisitive, creative girl. Adventure fills your soul. It’s this sense of wonder and excitement that feed your need for exploration! How you love to be on the go, just like your mama!

So while I am over here, making the all preparations for your fourth birthday bash, just know how much I have loved three! All the beautiful, messy moments of it. Of course I will always enjoy planning your birthday‘s! They are beyond special. But all the little moments of your life that make up an entire year are truly the best parts. So three, forgive me. I just want to hold on to you a little longer.

Unfortunately, time is inevitable and it never seems to slows down. So I will do my best to savor these last few months of three. Savor it, as you continue down the road to four. Another wonderful year coming to a close, but a new adventure just waiting to begin.

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

 

Update : {Five Months}

My sweet baby girl, how can it be five months already? I know I say it time and again, but these updates are coming all too quickly. Time moves like quicksand. I barely have time to grasp one moment before it’s gone, slowly fading from my rearview mirror…

Sweet little one, we love so much! Do you know that? Do you know how much your big sister loves to play with you?

Baby Girl – {Five Month Update}

  • Saturday, December 17th was your first family Christmas. You wore the same adorable outfit as big sister did for her first Christmas! You were perfectly happy! This was your first visit with your Great-grandparents and they loved you! Great-grandma even holding you for a quick photo.
  • Christmas Eve was your first time at Church and you very well! I feed you and you slept through most of it.
  • Big sister helped you open your Christmas Eve gift – purple footy pajamas with a monkey on them.
  • Christmas Day was a lovely First Christmas for you! I placed you in your activity seat and big sister helped you open your gifts. Your favorite gift is a teething book, “Guess How Much I Love You” that Santa placed in your stocking!
  • Sing – your first movie on Christmas Day. We feed you before we left. I held you in the theater and you fell asleep about 20 minutes into it. Then you woke up for a short time. You fussed for a moment or two, so I feed you and you went right back to sleep. Your first movie was a success!
  • In the last two months you have been moving all over your play mat and often times moving off of it.
  • Wednesday, December 28th you cut your first two teeth, the bottom two front ones!
  • Saturday, December 31st at 1:00pm you rolled over for the first time from tummy to back! I was able to snap a photo after your second time rolling over, but you haven’t allowed me to capture it on video.
  • January 3rd at 9:30am was your first cloth diaper experience.
  • When I tickle your neck, you give a deep belly laugh! It’s too cute!

Monthly Stickers: {AppleEyeBabyShop}

Personalized Swaddle Blanket: {Audrey’s Bear}

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

Toys : Childhood Memory’s + A Lovey

When I had my oldest daughter, I would often imagine different segments of her childhood. Some of those segments included favorite toys and perhaps a special lovey. At the time, I didn’t consider the possibility that she may flip flop her special lovey from week to week or even month to month. I also never considered the possibility that she would have FOUR loveys, but that’s exactly what happened!

Here we are almost four years later and I am trying to keep track of four loveys, because of course there is no nap or bedtime without them! It didn’t begin this way, you know? It wasn’t until after she turned two that she started to become attached to “lovey”. I pushed hard for the items I purchased, hoping one of those would be her special buddy. I remember carefully selecting a few items with that thought in mind. Much to my dismay, that was never the case.

Instead, we went between stuffed animals from Walmart and one specific Minnie and Mickey Mouse plush set. Until last August… We spent the day at an amusement park. During our visit my husband and toddler played a few games in hope of winning some prizes. And that’s how we acquired her first two permeant loveys thus far – Dory and Sting Ray.

Then there were FOUR

Flash forward to Christmas. My daughter receives a small pony from grandma and doll she calls “Sally” from her Godmother. So now, instead of discarding sting ray and dory, she has FOUR sleeping buddy’s!

Childhood 

Lately I have been thinking a lot about my childhood toys, but not just mine. I have also been thinking about my sisters. More specifically, her lovey. The one she lost as a child. As I am sure some of you can relate, she lost her most treasured item in a department store one Saturday afternoon. Unfortunately, there were no missing lovey websites available at the time. All my mother could do was call the store to see if anyone had turned it in, while consoling her very upset toddler.

Why am I so invested in my sisters lovey? Because I selected her lovey myself. My uncle had taken me to the local Montgomery Wards department store. I searched shelf after shelf, in hopes of finding the perfect toy to give my wild little sister. There I was, sitting on my knees, looking at the items on the bottom shelves, when I finally came across the perfect item.

A Playskool Pink Bunny Doll

I very vividly remember the doll I carefully selected for her as a child. It was a soft, plush material with a rubber head that squeaked when pushed. The white body and front of the ears filled with soft pink, green, and purple speckles. The hands, feet, and the material around the head and back of the ears were a fluffy pink. Sewn on the body was a small pink bib with the word “Playskool” printed across in green.

Loveys are such a special treasure for children and such a cherished memory for adults. Did you have a special lovey as a child? What was it and do you still have it?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

I Can’t Do It All And That’s Ok

I can’t do it all and that’s ok

As I sit down to write this, the day is already half over and I feel as though I have enjoyed so little of it. Between breakfast and lunch I was busy cleaning bathrooms and sweeping floors. Life is a balancing act. One that I sometimes feel as though I am failing at miserably.

Time Management 

Time management. There are dozens upon dozens of blog posts dedicated to the topic. I have read quite a few of those myself and while I admit, they are inspiring, I have yet to find a good balance.

As a child, I remember my own mother constantly moving around the house. She worked in our home and still managed to do all the cooking and cleaning. She wore it like a badge of honor. As did many others in her mom tribe. During that time, whether you worked inside or outside of the home you were still expected to do it all. Honestly, I have no idea how my mother did it!? But she did. She is one amazing woman.

So, when I embarked on my own motherhood journey I to, assumed I would just do it all. But the truth is, I can’t. It’s taken me awhile to be OK with that, but I am. My husband and I work as a team and we have realized through a lot of trail and error, that we just can’t do it all.

Take last night for example, my husband was trying to clean up some outdoor toys we stored in the garage for winter. My oldest is a Daddy’s girl, so of course she wanted to help.  Except, it was more like dance and twirl around while my husband cleaned. It ended with my almost 4 year old falling butt first into a bucket of pine-sol. This resulted with her in the tub for a good scrub and her favorite bat girl pajamas in the washer…

The list goes on and on… 

Since my husband was home today, I decided to spend the morning cleaning. Although, we could have spent the morning as a family unit – playing and laughing together… These daily decisions to check items off a list are not always easy. Even now, as I type this, I had to decide between this and a laundry list of other things.

I look around and see the kitchen is in desperate need of my attention. A bucket in the living room needing to be emptied so that I can fill it with my daughters out grown baby clothes. I need to carve out more time to fill in the pages of my youngest baby book. I ABSOLUTELY need to organize almost fours years worth of my daughters photos, for which I NEED to start printing.

Not to mention, I need to spend more time growing and developing my blog. When my baby was in the newborn phase, I had a small window each week to work on my blog or her book. Now that she is more aware and preschool is about half over, I feel as though I should be spending these next few months taking her to library story time instead. She won’t always be this little and I know I need to take a step back and enjoy these little moments.

Moments

As I type this, nap time is almost over. Which means it’s time to put all work away for now, because I promised my big girl we would make hot cocoa together. We plan to drink hot cocoa and chat about the day, while I hold the baby in my arms. I wouldn’t miss that date for the world!

Goals

Like so many others who made resolutions for this New Year, I have a few goals of my own. Although I don’t have a plan of attack for how best to achieve them, I know I have to forge ahead. Hopefully I will discover a good path, a rhythm that works best for my family and I. But no matter what comes, I will always stop, to embrace these little moments.

Do you have a good time management balance for life? Does it ever feel like the list is never ending? I totally get it! We can navigate through life and motherhood together. It takes a village!

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You