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I Can’t Do It All And That’s Ok

I can’t do it all and that’s ok

As I sit down to write this, the day is already half over and I feel as though I have enjoyed so little of it. Between breakfast and lunch I was busy cleaning bathrooms and sweeping floors. Life is a balancing act. One that I sometimes feel as though I am failing at miserably.

Time Management 

Time management. There are dozens upon dozens of blog posts dedicated to the topic. I have read quite a few of those myself and while I admit, they are inspiring, I have yet to find a good balance.

As a child, I remember my own mother constantly moving around the house. She worked in our home and still managed to do all the cooking and cleaning. She wore it like a badge of honor. As did many others in her mom tribe. During that time, whether you worked inside or outside of the home you were still expected to do it all. Honestly, I have no idea how my mother did it!? But she did. She is one amazing woman.

So, when I embarked on my own motherhood journey I to, assumed I would just do it all. But the truth is, I can’t. It’s taken me awhile to be OK with that, but I am. My husband and I work as a team and we have realized through a lot of trail and error, that we just can’t do it all.

Take last night for example, my husband was trying to clean up some outdoor toys we stored in the garage for winter. My oldest is a Daddy’s girl, so of course she wanted to help.  Except, it was more like dance and twirl around while my husband cleaned. It ended with my almost 4 year old falling butt first into a bucket of pine-sol. This resulted with her in the tub for a good scrub and her favorite bat girl pajamas in the washer…

The list goes on and on… 

Since my husband was home today, I decided to spend the morning cleaning. Although, we could have spent the morning as a family unit – playing and laughing together… These daily decisions to check items off a list are not always easy. Even now, as I type this, I had to decide between this and a laundry list of other things.

I look around and see the kitchen is in desperate need of my attention. A bucket in the living room needing to be emptied so that I can fill it with my daughters out grown baby clothes. I need to carve out more time to fill in the pages of my youngest baby book. I ABSOLUTELY need to organize almost fours years worth of my daughters photos, for which I NEED to start printing.

Not to mention, I need to spend more time growing and developing my blog. When my baby was in the newborn phase, I had a small window each week to work on my blog or her book. Now that she is more aware and preschool is about half over, I feel as though I should be spending these next few months taking her to library story time instead. She won’t always be this little and I know I need to take a step back and enjoy these little moments.

Moments

As I type this, nap time is almost over. Which means it’s time to put all work away for now, because I promised my big girl we would make hot cocoa together. We plan to drink hot cocoa and chat about the day, while I hold the baby in my arms. I wouldn’t miss that date for the world!

Goals

Like so many others who made resolutions for this New Year, I have a few goals of my own. Although I don’t have a plan of attack for how best to achieve them, I know I have to forge ahead. Hopefully I will discover a good path, a rhythm that works best for my family and I. But no matter what comes, I will always stop, to embrace these little moments.

Do you have a good time management balance for life? Does it ever feel like the list is never ending? I totally get it! We can navigate through life and motherhood together. It takes a village!

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

Screen Time Balance

As parents, we have so much on our plates. There are so many things to worry about. We work hard to make sure our children become well-rounded individuals. This post isn’t about how to be the best parent. It’s simple about how we learn, grow, and change as parents. Well… to be more specific, how I changed to achieve a parenting goal.

Screen time. It’s at the forefront of our culture. It’s what we use to connect ourselves to the rest of the world on a daily basis. It’s available to us at one click of a button 24/7, 7 days a week. Screen time has also been making headlines in recent years. With experts discussing the appropriate amount of time in front of a screen with regards to children.

As an educator, I realized creating a balance was so important. Before I had my daughter I thought a lot about creating the perfect balance for her. Then I had her and creating that balance wasn’t so easy. Part of me wants to blame living in a small apartment, but truthfully, that’s not the case. In truth, I loved my shows and hated to give them up. Plus, having the T.V. on when I was home, whether I was watching it or not, had always been my normal.

Now, this doesn’t mean we stayed home all day, everyday in front of the T.V. Quite the contrary, we left our apartment 3 to 4 mornings a week from the time she was 6 weeks old. We took family walks almost every evening. We talked, read, and played together everyday, but the T.V. was always there – in the background. It made the room feel louder and busier, as if we never slowed down.

As we were preparing for our move, our daughter was approaching 22 months and I noticed she began taking more of an interest in all things technology. It was at this point, that I vowed to create a better screen time balance. We doubled our square footage, there was space for a playroom, and we finally had our own back yard.

Even with those additions, it was still a bit of a transition for all of us, but it has proven to be so beneficial. I feel like our interactions with one another are more focused because there is nothing in the background to distract us. Our family time feels more calm, rather than rushed and chaotic. We are more focused on the everyday life with each other – including love, conversations, reading, and imaginary play.

Screen Time Balance:

  • Our T.V. doesn’t go on until 4:00pm
  • T.V. is off for dinner time
  • Evening walks as a family – weather permitting
  • Play in playroom
  • Color and draw
  • Play outside
  • She only plays on computers while at the library
  • All tablets are only played with 1-2 times a week for an hour a piece

Please remember, it took me 22 months to get to this point. We are continuously growing and changing through this process called parenthood. There is no right or wrong way – there is simply what works best for you and your family.

Have you achieved the perfect screen time balance? It this something you’re still working on? Either way, remember, your doing the best job you can! You are a good parent!

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

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