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4 Books That Changed The Way I Parent

Last spring I was knee deep in the trenches with a toddler and a baby. It was a beautiful mess. Emphasis on the messy part. My days of fairy tale play and feedings seemed to run together.

Now, I love this little #MomLife of mine, but sometimes a girl just needs a boost. So I spent one afternoon chatting with a mom of four about the changes that have transpired since baby #2. Because lets face it, every time we add a new member to the family its a huge shift for everyone involved.

In the nearly four years since becoming a mom I had read several blog posts and magazine articles sounding parenthood, but I have never once pick up a book on the subject. Then my friend recommended a book called, “It’s OK Not To Share.” It all started there, with this one book and has taken me down a path of parental growth and understanding.

Now, four books laters, I am a completely different parent.

4 Books That Changed The Way I Parent

1. “It’s OK Not To Share… and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids” By: Heather Schumaker 

If I am being completely honest, the title sounded a bit too “hippy-ish” for my taste and I was more than sure it wouldn’t be a good fit, but I decided to check it out anyway. Now, I cannot stop raving about it to anyone who will listen! Many of the thoughts and sentiments expressed are derived from a preschool with over four decades of experience. Heather describes in great detail everything from the importance of free play, communication, emotions, understanding, creativity, and of course how to share. Honestly, the communication and understanding between adult and child is what blew me away!

(Side note: She has a second book out called, “It’s OK To Go Up The Slide” for the elementary level. I can’t wait to read it!)

2. “Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids” By: Dr. Laura Markham

My number one take away from this book was that I needed to improve myself in order to improve my children. As parents, sometimes its hard to swallow our own pride and say maybe I am part of the problem. Once I got on board, I learned how to keep my cool in stressful situations. Thus, teaching my children how to communicate those unhappy feelings in a healthy way.

3. “Balanced and Barefoot” By: Angela J. Hanscom 

As parents we understand the value of playing outside, but this books takes it to a whole new level. The author describes the differences between the playgrounds and indoor play spaces of today versus decades ago and how that has affected our children over time. How their core strength and endurance has changed. Why running barefoot is important to your child’s development and so much more!

4. “Raising Your Spirit Child” By: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

If you have a spirited child I encourage you to get a copy of this book ASAP! My husband and I are currently reading this together and it makes so much sense! Trust me when I say, you will know 5-10 pages in, if this is the book for you! The book talks about all those little quirks that make your spirited child unique. Things like getting dressed, mealtime, bed time, success in school, and much more! The author explains how to work with your child’s energy, intensity, meltdowns, and battles.

As a parent, I have learned it’s not all about my children’s development, but about our growth and development together. This experience is about me, just as much as it is them. As the old saying goes, I need to practice what I preach. 

What are your go-to parenting books?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

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A Story For Mother’s Day

*This is a sponsored post by StoryWorth. All opinions are my own.

Our memories are the threads with, which create the fabric of our lives. Sewn together from birth to death. Creating this metaphorical quilt. A quilt that transcends time. Those threads and fabrics are the pieces that pull together our story. Our life story.

Think about it. I mean, really think about it. When a loved one passes away, how is it they are remember? How is it possible for their story to stay alive? To keep the threads of their quilt from unraveling, like aimless strings just dancing in the wind? From being forgotten?

Sharing our story.

As a kid, I lived for those family gathering! The ones that included ice cream, volleyball, water balloon tosses, and stories! Those were the best part! My cousins and I would always sit quietly during those picnic lunches. Listening to the adults recall the stories of their past. Or good ‘ol days, (as they so vibrantly put it!) Of course the stories themselves, were always up for debate. Once a story was told my mother or one of her siblings would quickly chime in with, “No, no, no! That is not how it happened! I will tell you how it really happened!” After about two or three family members debated the original story tellers account, they moved on to the next one. You never heard the same story twice or least in the same way.

Now that my cousins and I are all off leading our own lives, those stories are no longer told. Pieces of the past are drifting away, as the fabric begins to unravel…

I am lucky though. My mom is one of the most vibrant storytellers of the family. So I was fortunate enough to hear the stories of her life year round. In fact, she still shares the threads which bind her life quilt together on a regular basis.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I am reminded just how lucky I am to still have those daily opportunities. This won’t always be the case. Someday my sister and I will be tasked with the responsibility of recounting the stories of our mother’s life, so her quilt does not unravel. So she is not forgotten. As a daughter, this feels like a momentous task.

Luckily, with this in mind, a company has created the perfect product. And on the heels of Mother’s Day, is the perfect gift.

StoryWorth

StoryWorth is a company dedicated to collecting family stories and placing them in a beautifully bound keepsake book. How is this done, you ask?

Choose a storyteller. A person whose stories will mean the most to you. Ensuring their legacy will live on for generations to come. Then, purchase a one year subscription from StoryWorth. What does a one year subscription include?

A one year subscription gives the storyteller of your choosing a years worth of story prompts to be bound in 1 hardcover book. StoryWorth gives you the option to choose your storyteller’s questions from their library or you can simply write your own. It’s entirely up to you!

What if your storyteller isn’t computer savvy? 

This is my FAVORITE part! StoryWorth has an audio option. The storyteller can simply click the link in their weekly e-mails, signaling the system to call the phone number saved in their file. They simply pick up the phone and share their story. The audio file will save it. It’s so easy!

Nick Baum is the mastermind and creator behind StoryWorth. He created this company in 2012, because he wanted to build a space that was easily accessible for his father and others like him, to record their stories.

So, as Mother’s Day approaches, whose stories do you want told? Whose life quilt do you want to remain intact for future generations- your mother, grandmother, aunt, or someone else? Make today the today, to give the best Mother’s Day gift to yourself and your loved ones. Make today a day StoryWorth day. Simply click on the link below to get started!

  • Preserve your mom’s stories for the next generation with a beautiful book!
  • Weekly story prompts make it easy.
  • Mother’s Day special: $20 off!

https://www.storyworth.com/boldlybravelyyou

 

 

 

 

 

One, Two, Three : Don’t Blink

One, Two, Three…

There it is and just like that it’s gone. I feel like that is just how much time has past, but not in years. In seconds… Time is the tabistry of life. A fabric I am deperserately trying to cling to with every fiber of my being.

One, Two, Three…

That is how many seconds it took for you to go from baby to toddler. And within a matter of a few short months you will be leaving three behind forever. The visual in my mind is difficult to shake… I picture you waving good-bye to three and as you head down a dust road to greet number four. Leaving three to fade into the background, becoming a distant memory.

One, Two, Three…

While I feel as though there is something magical about each stage of life, I feel like 3 has been my favorite thus far. Or maybe 3 1/2. Either way, I love this number! A number that represents so much growth and development.

I love all the cute things you say!

  • “I will go wiff (with) you!”
  • “Yes, Imam.” (I am)
  • “I NOT!” (You sound as though you have adopted a sophisticated European accent when you say this. It’s too cute!)
  • “I’m free” (I’m three)
  • “I wuv you!” (I love you!)
  • “Not for now.” (When you don’t want to do something.)
  • “You tell me! You tell me now!” (When you ask a question I do not know the answer to. Ex. What is her name? As we pass a random little girl in the grocery store.)
  • “I have to stir my witches potion, mommy!” (As you stand on the step stool at the counter, donned with your superhero mask and cape, while stirring the eggs.)
  • “Minnie and Mickey live in Forda and Calfona!” (Florida and California are two of the first four states you learned.)
  • “I do it myself!”
  • “Oooo, that’s spooky!”
  • “Cuddle you Mommy.”
  • “What it taste of?” (What does it taste like?)
  • “Mmmmmm, that’s tasty.”
  • “That’s yummy for my tummy.”
  • *Dramatic Sigh* “I’m tired. I need to rest.”

I love the sweet songs you sing!

  • “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.” You started singing to your baby sister when she was in my tummy.
  • “Go, Cubs, Go.” Daddy taught you this song over the summer. One day at preschool you began singing it to your teachers.

A few books you love! When you love a book you stick with it for weeks and even months on end.

  • For months following your third birthday, Snow White and the Seven Dwarves was a must read.
  • The Day The Crayons Quit
  • What Makes a Rainbow
  • Scaredy-Cat Splat – Halloween books are your all time favorite!
  • The Little Old Lady Who Was Not Afraid Of Anything
  • Dr. Seuss ABC Book – Just within the last few weeks, you have memorized a majority of the content in the book. It’s amazing to listen to you!

Goodbye Three…

Honestly, I could spend days adding to this post. Writing down every tidbit that makes you, my adorable girl, one amazing three year old! We have had a great year, haven’t we!? You have become quite the inquisitive, creative girl. Adventure fills your soul. It’s this sense of wonder and excitement that feed your need for exploration! How you love to be on the go, just like your mama!

So while I am over here, making the all preparations for your fourth birthday bash, just know how much I have loved three! All the beautiful, messy moments of it. Of course I will always enjoy planning your birthday‘s! They are beyond special. But all the little moments of your life that make up an entire year are truly the best parts. So three, forgive me. I just want to hold on to you a little longer.

Unfortunately, time is inevitable and it never seems to slows down. So I will do my best to savor these last few months of three. Savor it, as you continue down the road to four. Another wonderful year coming to a close, but a new adventure just waiting to begin.

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

 

My Top 5 Christmas Traditions to Start With Kids

Now that December is in full swing, so is the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. I must admit, I have been preparing for this since the summer. My pinterest account is bursting at the seams with Christmas activities. My daughter has now reached the stage where she can get into all the festivities. So now, I have a 25 days of Christmas calendar created just for this occasion.

Here are my top 5 Christmas Traditions that I am excited to start with my daughter!

1.   Elf on the Shelf

I purchased our elf when my daughter was still an infant. Leaving it secretly tucked away in the back of my closet until this year! A few weeks ago I DVRed the Elf on the Shelf movie, which I proceeded to play everyday in preparation for his arrival. Needless to say, my daughter ended up naming him Chippy. Click here to see where I got the idea for Chippy to make his grand appearance!

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2.   25 days of children’s religious Christmas books

A friend of mine does this tradition every year with her kids. It sounded like a great idea! I chose to make them religious because I want to keep God at the forefront of the Christmas season. You wrap one book up a day for them to open. In our case, we are using library books. There is no way I will purchase 25 books every year and the kids won’t care either way!

3.   Polar Express Party

I love this idea! My husband and I used to go to the iMax Theater every year to see it before we had children. Since our daughter was born I have been wanting to take her to the different Polar Express activities that go on this time of year. The Polar Express Train Ride was my first choice, but the tickets alone are VERY expensive. Not to mention we would need to travel a good distance to be a part of one. My other thought was the Polar Express PJ party at a near by children’s museum. Unfortunately, the tickets sold out in less than an hour. Leaving only a few undesirable times left. So instead, we are going to create a Polar Express Pajama Party at home! Our party will include: a train ticket, reading the book, and watching the movie while eat cookies and drinking hot chocolate in our pjs. Click here to see the details from a Pinterest post I found!

4.   Christmas Eve Present

This is a tradition we had in my house growing up. Our parents would pick out one present for each of us to open on Christmas Eve night. It was typically a CD, movie, or book. Something to keep us busy the rest of the evening. I want to take this tradition a step further. In our daughters Christmas Eve box will be a movie, pjs, popcorn, and a packet of hot chocolate. Click here to see some great printable labels for your box!

5.   Christmas Day Movie

My husband and I love watching movies. Its been our thing since we began dating. Our daughter even enjoys going to the theater. So we have tossed around the idea of going to see a children’s movie at the theater on Christmas night. We thought it would be a great unique tradition start. For me, something like this is a normal thought because when I was younger my family and I would go bowling on Christmas Day. I always enjoyed having something so ordinary become such a unique tradition, because not a lot of families I knew went out on Christmas Day.

What were your favorite Christmas traditions as a child? What traditions have you started with your children?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You