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4 Books That Changed The Way I Parent

Last spring I was knee deep in the trenches with a toddler and a baby. It was a beautiful mess. Emphasis on the messy part. My days of fairy tale play and feedings seemed to run together.

Now, I love this little #MomLife of mine, but sometimes a girl just needs a boost. So I spent one afternoon chatting with a mom of four about the changes that have transpired since baby #2. Because lets face it, every time we add a new member to the family its a huge shift for everyone involved.

In the nearly four years since becoming a mom I had read several blog posts and magazine articles sounding parenthood, but I have never once pick up a book on the subject. Then my friend recommended a book called, “It’s OK Not To Share.” It all started there, with this one book and has taken me down a path of parental growth and understanding.

Now, four books laters, I am a completely different parent.

4 Books That Changed The Way I Parent

1. “It’s OK Not To Share… and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids” By: Heather Schumaker 

If I am being completely honest, the title sounded a bit too “hippy-ish” for my taste and I was more than sure it wouldn’t be a good fit, but I decided to check it out anyway. Now, I cannot stop raving about it to anyone who will listen! Many of the thoughts and sentiments expressed are derived from a preschool with over four decades of experience. Heather describes in great detail everything from the importance of free play, communication, emotions, understanding, creativity, and of course how to share. Honestly, the communication and understanding between adult and child is what blew me away!

(Side note: She has a second book out called, “It’s OK To Go Up The Slide” for the elementary level. I can’t wait to read it!)

2. “Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids” By: Dr. Laura Markham

My number one take away from this book was that I needed to improve myself in order to improve my children. As parents, sometimes its hard to swallow our own pride and say maybe I am part of the problem. Once I got on board, I learned how to keep my cool in stressful situations. Thus, teaching my children how to communicate those unhappy feelings in a healthy way.

3. “Balanced and Barefoot” By: Angela J. Hanscom 

As parents we understand the value of playing outside, but this books takes it to a whole new level. The author describes the differences between the playgrounds and indoor play spaces of today versus decades ago and how that has affected our children over time. How their core strength and endurance has changed. Why running barefoot is important to your child’s development and so much more!

4. “Raising Your Spirit Child” By: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka

If you have a spirited child I encourage you to get a copy of this book ASAP! My husband and I are currently reading this together and it makes so much sense! Trust me when I say, you will know 5-10 pages in, if this is the book for you! The book talks about all those little quirks that make your spirited child unique. Things like getting dressed, mealtime, bed time, success in school, and much more! The author explains how to work with your child’s energy, intensity, meltdowns, and battles.

As a parent, I have learned it’s not all about my children’s development, but about our growth and development together. This experience is about me, just as much as it is them. As the old saying goes, I need to practice what I preach. 

What are your go-to parenting books?

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Who Am I?

Who am I now?

This is a question I still struggle with, a little over two years into my motherhood journey. Let me previse this with, I love being a stay-at-home mom. I enjoy every precious moment with her and I wouldn’t change it! Now, with that being said, let me dive into what I mean.

Before I had my daughter, I measured myself based on academic achievements and my job title. I know these things don’t make up who I am as a person, but they are the tools I used to measure myself with. Even now when people ask what I do for a living I say, “I am a stay-at-home mom, but before I had my daughter I was a teacher.” For some reason I always feel the need to throw that in there. As if saying I am a stay-at-home mom doesn’t count or isn’t good enough. Silly right?

Have any of you ever gone through something like this?

In truth, I know that being a stay-at-home mom is a very important job. It’s the most important job I will EVER have! It’s a job full of love, fun, tantrums, tears, laughter, milestones, and LOTS of patience. So why do I feel the need to add to my verbal resume? After a lot of thought, I realized its because I have always measured myself by my academic achievements. Somewhere along the line I married who I am based solely upon my academics…

When I first had the idea for this post, I sat down to really think about how I felt about who I am. But more importantly, I tried to think about who I really am outside of my academic achievements. So here goes…

I am a woman.

I am a wife.

I am a mother.

I am a lover of photography.

I am patient at times.

I am antsy at times.

I am kind.

I am Bold.

I am Brave.

I am ME!

Who are you?

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