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When Everybody’s Watching: Handling a Toddler Meltdown in Public

As moms, we are all just doing our best to raise happy, competent children. Some days are filled with immense joy and others are inundated with speed bumps. Sometimes those speed bumps come in the form of toddler meltdowns. It’s something that plagues every parent. This phase is anything but easy. That’s why I am pleased to have Jenny from MomLovesBest, on the blog today. She is sharing her tips for how to handle those toddler meltdowns in public, while keeping your cool.

When Everybody’s Watching: Handling a Toddler Meltdown in Public

It’s happened to the best of us: our toddler loses it right in the middle of the grocery store. Or public park. Or any other place where the eyes of strangers are on you. But when it happens, you can’t lose it yourself.

I know it’s easier said than done, but you must keep your cool – even when everyone’s watching. Though it may feel like you’re being judged by the slew of onlookers, it’s important to focus on the task at hand. And you may be surprised to learn that task is NOT to get the tantrum to stop at all costs.

It’s to parent well in the midst of the meltdown.

So take a deep breath and get ready to tackle your mission. How you handle this situation will have much more far-reaching repercussions than whatever insignificant opinions strangers may have of you.

Here’s how to parent well in the midst of a public toddler meltdown.

1. Be empathetic.

Let’s be honest – it’s hard being a toddler. With little control, wild emotions, and few words with which to express them, situations can become overwhelming quickly. The truth is that toddlers don’t yet have the capacity to truly manipulate you and while tantrums may be a genuine expression of displeasure, it doesn’t mean they’re doing it on purpose just to give you a hard time. Most likely it means they’ve got some powerful feelings and they don’t know how to manage them.

Evaluate the situation and see if you can identify the reason for the tantrum. Are they overdue for a nap? Hungry? Antsy after a morning of running errands and need some exercise? Need a diaper change? Just plain mad that they aren’t getting their way? After you have identified a reason, it’s easier to respond appropriately.

2. Speak calmly.

Get down on your child’s level so you appear as non-threatening as possible. Speak calmly; a child overwhelmed with their own emotions will also be overwhelmed by yours. Look them in the eye and validate the reason for their tantrum.

“I know you’re very angry that you can’t have a snack right now. We need to finish shopping, and then we will get you a snack in the car. The faster you can calm down, the faster we can finish. Can I rub your back to help you feel better?”

Sometimes, just feeling like they’re heard is enough to stop a child’s tantrum.

3. Be consistent.

If the tantrum continues, handle it in public the same way you would at home. This teaches your child as they grow that causing a scene does NOT let them get their way. Because even though they’re not manipulating you now, you’re laying the groundwork for the future. Moreover, being consistent (regardless of the locale) provides a level of security and predictability for your child. They need to know that you are the same parent in every situation, whether at home or out and about.

4. Don’t make promises (or threats) you won’t keep.

I know. You just want it to STOP, especially in public. But that can cause you to make wild promises (or terrible threats) to coax your child into submission. Taking grand steps to get the tantrum to end may solve the immediate problem, but it can begin to develop a host of new, larger issues in the future.

It can teach your child that your words are meaningless, or that your follow-through is poor. Children may begin to believe that humiliating their parents in public will help them get their way. As children grow, the stakes become higher. The foundation is laid early on.

5. Don’t give in.

Sometimes it takes awhile for the situation to resolve. Once you’ve begun the battle of wills, you can’t back off. You’ll need to put on your patience and see it through to the end. Stay calm, stay firm, and – above all – stay empathetic. If your child continues to cause a scene and you’re concerned about the comfort of others around you, simply pick them up and remove them from the area. Continue the conversation outside or away from eavesdropping ears – but make sure you do see it through to the end. Don’t give in.

6. Make reasonable adjustments.

Let’s be honest – sometimes the tantrum is our fault. We neglected to meet a need our child had, pushed them too hard, or crossed our fingers as we blew right through the warning signs that a meltdown was imminent. If that’s the case, make the adjustments your child needs – even if that means creating an inconvenience for you. Take a time out to nurse your child or get them a snack. Sit on the floor and snuggle them for a few minutes. Leave your cart and head home for a nap.

Remember, while public tantrums are one of the hardest things to deal with as a parent, you are still the adult in the situation. Don’t worry about what others think of you; instead, worry about what’s best for your child. And what’s best for your child is to know that you are there to be loving, consistent, and help them learn to regulate their emotions effectively. Using these techniques will help to effectively diffuse the situation and allow you to parent your child well through an event that is just as stressful for your child as it is for you.

Jenny is just another Mom trying to do her Best. She loves organizing things into lists and helping others find what they are looking for. When she’s not using her powers to find her kids missing socks, you can find her giving parenting advice & tips at MomLovesBest.com or on Pinterest.

DockATot : {A Review}

*This is a sponsored post by DockATot. All opinions are my own.

Once our sweet baby girl began napping and playing on the living room, I was nervous. Unlike the first time, we now have hardwood floors. It just seemed so uncomfortable, all that moving and playing about. Not to mention sleeping there.

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Lisa Furuland is the creator and visionary behind DockATot. Like many innovated designers, her creative genius began with the birth of her first child. Lisa’s desire and drive to find something snug and comfortable enough for her newborn son lead her to create the DockATot Deluxe (0-8 months) and the DockATot Grand (9-36 months).

The DockATot is a multi-functional item for babies and toddlers to lounge, rest, and play during both back and tummy time with supervision. It was also created with quality and comfort in mind. The DockATot was designed in Sweden, brought to life in Europe, and is OEKO-TEX Certified.

The DockATot allows my babe the ability to have both play and nap time in a snug, comfortable spot. I love having the ability to get a little blogging done, while knowing she is napping safely and comfortably at my feet. Having this product for nap time has been a life saver for me! Nap time on the floor after some big play, never lasted long and trying to transfer a sleeping baby from floor to crib was proving difficult. The DockATot has given my babe the comfort needed for a long nap! Ensuring me the ability to get things done!

As a mother, I love how it was created with us in mind. It arrives in an easy to use carrying and storage case. The case is the perfect transporting solution for those summer vacations, as well as the ability to keep it dust free while storing it for the next babe.

Do you have a DockATot? What are your solutions for nap time on hardwood floors?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

One, Two, Three : Don’t Blink

One, Two, Three…

There it is and just like that it’s gone. I feel like that is just how much time has past, but not in years. In seconds… Time is the tabistry of life. A fabric I am deperserately trying to cling to with every fiber of my being.

One, Two, Three…

That is how many seconds it took for you to go from baby to toddler. And within a matter of a few short months you will be leaving three behind forever. The visual in my mind is difficult to shake… I picture you waving good-bye to three and as you head down a dust road to greet number four. Leaving three to fade into the background, becoming a distant memory.

One, Two, Three…

While I feel as though there is something magical about each stage of life, I feel like 3 has been my favorite thus far. Or maybe 3 1/2. Either way, I love this number! A number that represents so much growth and development.

I love all the cute things you say!

  • “I will go wiff (with) you!”
  • “Yes, Imam.” (I am)
  • “I NOT!” (You sound as though you have adopted a sophisticated European accent when you say this. It’s too cute!)
  • “I’m free” (I’m three)
  • “I wuv you!” (I love you!)
  • “Not for now.” (When you don’t want to do something.)
  • “You tell me! You tell me now!” (When you ask a question I do not know the answer to. Ex. What is her name? As we pass a random little girl in the grocery store.)
  • “I have to stir my witches potion, mommy!” (As you stand on the step stool at the counter, donned with your superhero mask and cape, while stirring the eggs.)
  • “Minnie and Mickey live in Forda and Calfona!” (Florida and California are two of the first four states you learned.)
  • “I do it myself!”
  • “Oooo, that’s spooky!”
  • “Cuddle you Mommy.”
  • “What it taste of?” (What does it taste like?)
  • “Mmmmmm, that’s tasty.”
  • “That’s yummy for my tummy.”
  • *Dramatic Sigh* “I’m tired. I need to rest.”

I love the sweet songs you sing!

  • “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.” You started singing to your baby sister when she was in my tummy.
  • “Go, Cubs, Go.” Daddy taught you this song over the summer. One day at preschool you began singing it to your teachers.

A few books you love! When you love a book you stick with it for weeks and even months on end.

  • For months following your third birthday, Snow White and the Seven Dwarves was a must read.
  • The Day The Crayons Quit
  • What Makes a Rainbow
  • Scaredy-Cat Splat – Halloween books are your all time favorite!
  • The Little Old Lady Who Was Not Afraid Of Anything
  • Dr. Seuss ABC Book – Just within the last few weeks, you have memorized a majority of the content in the book. It’s amazing to listen to you!

Goodbye Three…

Honestly, I could spend days adding to this post. Writing down every tidbit that makes you, my adorable girl, one amazing three year old! We have had a great year, haven’t we!? You have become quite the inquisitive, creative girl. Adventure fills your soul. It’s this sense of wonder and excitement that feed your need for exploration! How you love to be on the go, just like your mama!

So while I am over here, making the all preparations for your fourth birthday bash, just know how much I have loved three! All the beautiful, messy moments of it. Of course I will always enjoy planning your birthday‘s! They are beyond special. But all the little moments of your life that make up an entire year are truly the best parts. So three, forgive me. I just want to hold on to you a little longer.

Unfortunately, time is inevitable and it never seems to slows down. So I will do my best to savor these last few months of three. Savor it, as you continue down the road to four. Another wonderful year coming to a close, but a new adventure just waiting to begin.

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

 

 

Spooktacular Meals For The Littles : {Happy Halloween}

Halloween is in full swing in our house and the kitchen is no exception! If you read my blog, then you already know I am a fan of batch cooking. Meaning, I typically cook my toddlers meals for the whole week at once, depending on what it is. Since Mondays tend to be the day we typically stay home, it works out pretty perfect!

I knew I wanted to incorporate Halloween into her breakfast and lunches for the week. It was also important that I keep the prep work pretty simply for the days that we were out and about. Plus, we are not morning people and she is never a huge fan of eating at that time.

Cookie Cutters are usually my go-to for fun and simple! A few good metal cookie cutters can take a boring meal and turn it into a fabulous creation! So, I grabbed some Halloween inspired ones from the drawer.

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Breakfast

Halloween Cinnamon Sugar Crisps with Ghost Bananas 

Cookie Cutters: A cat, witch hat, and pumpkin

Whole Wheat Tortilla Shells

2 tsp Cinnamon

1/4 to 1/2 Cup Sugar

4 TBS Butter Melted

Bananas

Chocolate Chips

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

My daughter used the cookie cutters to make shapes out of the tortilla shells. Then she dipped them in the bowl of melted butter. Next she pressed them into the cinnamon and sugar mixture. Lastly, we placed them on a a greased baking sheet. Bake for 10 minutes. Let them cool for a few minutes and Enjoy! You can store the remaining crisps in a tubber ware bowl on the counter.  (Note: I got busy and left them in for a few extra minutes and they were much darker then intended. So really pay attention to the timer.)

Cut a banana in half, to create two individual ghosts. Press chocolate chips on the bananas to create the eyes and mouth. Creating the perfect Spooktacular Breakfast!

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Lunch

Mummy Hot Dogs, Apple Teeth, & Pumpkin Carrots

1 Can of Crescent Rolls

Hot Dogs

Cheese

Apple Slices

Peanut Butter

Marshmallows

Carrots

Preheat Oven to 375 degrees. Roll out crescent roll dough. Using a pizza cutter, cut the dough into strips. (Note: My strips did not come out perfect by any means, but the Mummy’s still came out great!) Lay a slice of cheese under a hotdog and wrap the strips of dough around the hotdog and cheese, in a mummy like fashion. Use a little dough to create some eyes. Set them on a baking sheet and pop them into the oven for about 17 minutes or until the dough is golden brown and the hotdogs are hot. (Note: I made five hotdogs, but there was enough dough to use all 8 hotdogs if preferred. Once they were cooled, I placed the remaining mummy’s in a sealed tubber ware bowl. Put them in the refrigerator to have for the rest of the week.)

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We always seem to be pretty busy through the week. So when I plan to do a themed meal that requires a little extra prep, I try to make it as easy as possible. Buying the precut apples is one of those ways! While the hotdogs are in the oven, I pull out the apple slices, peanut butter, and marshmallows to assemble the apple teeth! Using a butter knife, I spread peanut butter on to one side of the apple slices. Line up the marshmallows on one slice and place a second apple slice on top. WALA! Apple Teeth!

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For the pumpkin carrots, I found this easy tutorial from Little Dairy On The Prairie!

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Snacks

Finally, no Spooktacular meal would be complete without dessert! Thanks to my husband for finding these super cute Reese’s Peanut Butter Pumpkin Spiders!

Is Halloween a major deal in your house? What Spooktacular meals do you have planned for your littles?

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

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Pumpkin Patch Fun + Toddler Friendly Decorating

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Halloween is a huge deal in our house, thanks in part to Charlie Brown! When our toddler was a mere 18 months old, I turned on the annual broadcast of, “It’s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown.” With all the current, more flashier cartoons, I wasn’t expecting much. So imagine my surprise when I realized my daughter was completely memorized. Thank God I DVRed it! Since then, we discuss all things Halloween, including pumpkins, year round!

This past weekend we drove back to visit family and made a stop at our local pumpkin patch. It’s the same one we have taken our toddler to since she was a baby. There isn’t an array of flashy activities like some. Instead, its a quaint family owned farm, just off the beaten path. While it can get busy, it never feels crowded and the pumpkins are reasonably priced. The weather was a perfect, sunny and 65 degrees.

This year I was in search of the perfect little pumpkin for some toddler friendly fun! Once we settled on the perfect, pumpkins – one for traditional carving and the other for my toddler to enjoy, we headed straight for grandma’s house!

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We did what I like to call, “The Rainbow Pumpkin Activity” at their house, because grandma owns a blow dryer! (Thanks mom! 😉

I did a similar activity when I taught, except I used a poster bored instead of a pumpkin. But I have to say, I like the pumpkin better!

I used a hot glue gun to attach some older crayons around the top of the pumpkin. Then, with the help of my mom, my daughter began melting the crayons with the hair dryer. The crayons melted faster when the blow dryer was pointing directly down on the crayons. My daughter was a amazed as the bright, bold colors began to drip down, consuming every inch of the once white pumpkin!

It was a quick and easy activity, that created little mess! The best part – it fed my daughters Halloween obsession and we still made it home in time to see the Cubs win their division!

Copyrighted By: Boldly Bravely You

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