When I was pregnant with our first daughter a lady very bluntly asked me if I was going to find out the gender before delivery. Before I could even answer, she went on to state her opinion on the subject. She firmly believed that having this knowledge before delivery took all the joy and excitement out of the baby’s arrival. It was then, that I proceeded to tell her we were in fact going to learn the gender ahead of time. As the displeasure of my answer crossed her face, I went on to say that we would NOT however, reveal her name until after she was born.
Why I won’t be sharing my baby’s name with you:
- Just like the lady who bluntly stated her opinion as to whether or not I should learn the gender of my baby prior to delivery, people will also have opinions on the name you choose. And to be honest, I don’t need to hear whether or not you like the name. Choosing a name is one of the most difficult decisions a parent can make. So the last thing any parent-to-be wants to hear about a name they have spent months agonizing over and carefully selecting, is how awful YOU think it is.
- It’s a SURPRISE! I love the fact that there is still something I know and you don’t. When friends and family learn you don’t plan to share the name until the birth, it makes it that much more exciting. People are very eager to know something they have had to wait nine months to find out. Plus, who doesn’t love surprises?!
- Stealing. This one I find a bit funny, as no one person has claim over a name. At the same time, I understand how it could feel frustrating to share a name you have carefully selected only to have someone decide to use it as well. For me, when thinking of names I do try to steer clear of using another family members name. Only because I think it could get slightly confusing if you had two Aunt Sally’s or something like that.
- What if we change our minds? While this was not an issue with our first pregnancy, it would absolutely be a concern this time around. Although, family members have suggested that by sharing the name prior to the birth, it would make it easier to receive personalized gifts. What IF we change our minds? Think of all those sweet gifts we couldn’t use?
- A story in the making. Sharing your baby’s name after the birth can result in some pretty memorable stories you will have forever. When we shared our oldest daughters name, my father had difficulty remembering it. So much so, that when his co-workers asked him the name of his only grandchild his mind went completely blank. He could not remember her name to save his life! My mother still gives him a hard time about that! This funny little story is one we wouldn’t have if we had shared the name months in advance!
Did you have a name selected before your child was born? Did you share it with friends and family ahead of time?
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